They love to project their own faults onto you, especially if you confront them. If you dare to explain to them they are a Narcissist, they will simply turn around and call you one. They will say anything to convince you that you are the one with the problem, not them. Ignore their bullshit. Just go no contact. Its healthier for you in the long run. Even trained psychologists know there is no help for a Narcissist. You can't fix them.